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The Last Week of 2012

The world did not end.

Some say that the Mayans just ran out of room.  Some say that the Doctor saved us as he seems to every Christmas.  Whatever it was, we’re all still here.

The Doctor does always seem to find something trying to take over the world at Christmas...

The Doctor does always seem to find something trying to take over the world at Christmas…

The new year is closing in fast.  The news and magazines and Pinterest, and any other thing you look at is going to talk about the best of 2012, tell us all it’s time to make our resolutions, tell us that it’s time to plan Easter.  I did get a present from the Easter Bunny – a small packet of Cadbury candy eggs.  They are on sale at Stop and Shop you know, and were out on Christmas Eve ready for sale!

I try not to gripe too much but this year, I really can’t help but notice how rushed we all were into our holidays.  I love flipping through Pinterest but I feel like the pressure to start getting into the next holiday is always pushed on me there first.  Then it’s the tv commercials.  Black Friday started the week before Thanksgiving this year and Thanksgiving itself was quite a blur.  Does that mean tonight we’ll start seeing commercials about Easter chocolates?  Valentines?

At any rate, I should quit my griping because Christmas was good.  We are all pretty sick with whatever this sinus thing is but the day was good nonetheless.  I am in Christmas withdrawal though.  It was so wonderful to watch The Daughter wake up and discover what Santa had left for her.  Then the non-sick family went on to Rhode Island while the sick group stayed home and kind of crashed.  When the non-sick family came home from Rhode Island, we did do our annual Peppermint Pig tradition where we say something we wish for the coming year.  I did not make a serious wish because by the time it got to me, we had all been laughing too hard but I do feel like I should have some kind of plan of attack for the new year.   So, my list is as follows:

1) Do the #26Acts in memory of the Newtown.  Before Christmas, money was a little tight so now that the holidays are over, I think the Daughter and I can do some kindness for others in the coming days.  I also think it’s important to carry this one throughout the year.  They should not just be one month or one week of kindness, they should be done every day.  When I finish my dedicated #26Acts, I may do them again and again…

2) Finish the book I started in November.  I am so close to finishing it.  I just kind of put it on hold for December so I could focus on shopping and wrapping and family events.  I need to finish it.  I need to edit it.  I need to draft a query letter.  I need to do it so I don’t live a life of “what ifs.”

3) I need to get back on track with the weight loss.  I’m tired of not looking good in holiday pictures.  I’m tired of not having the clothing I want to have because they don’t make it affordable for fat people to dress fashionably.  I’m tired of being fat.  Thanks Brother #3 for the heart rate monitor…should help me with this goal.  My goal for 2013 is to lose at least another 50 lbs.  I’m shooting low so that I don’t disappoint myself but this coming Thursday will count as my start weight since it’s the last weigh in of 2012.  If I go above that 50 lb goal, then yay me! Just getting back on track will be amazing.

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4) I need to be better about communicating with friends and family that I don’t see enough.  I tend to withdraw this time of year.  Maybe it’s the lack of sunlight and warm days.  Maybe it’s the holiday doldrums.  Maybe I’m just weird.  But I am going to commit to my friends and family to be better about phone calls and actual in person visits as opposed to liking photos on Facebook and instant messenger.  Maybe it means more traveling or adventures.  That’s kind of what I’m hoping this one turns into!

So.  I’m going to start with those four.  I think that they are good to start with.  I am thinking that as the week moves on and I get closer to another year, I will probably try to make a longer list of more things I want to accomplish this year.  I like lists.  They help me see that I actually have accomplished something.

What are you goals for 2013?

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What do I Want to Be When I Grow Up?

I don’t know what I want to be when I grow up.  I don’t know that I will know any time soon either.  There are so many things that I thought I wanted to be when I grew up. A journalist sounded fun but for some reason, I didn’t pursue that one. Even for career day back in fourth grade, I didn’t really know what to dress up as and I kept changing my mind from lawyer to doctor to whatever else popped into my little 9 year old head.

That indecision carried on for quite some time.  I went off to college thinking that I would become a world traveler, an international business woman spending half my time between Paris and New York.  Then I took microeconomics for the Economics major.  Yeah, right.

Then I thought maybe I would get into the hotel world.  I did for a while and I liked it.  Then life began to happen to me, layoffs, job switches, a child.

I felt like my head had been spun around like a tilt-a-whirl and now it was time for me to get off the ride.

Then Friday happened.

I can’t stop thinking about the dreams of those who are now lost.  I can’t stop thinking about what they would have grown to become.  I look at my own daughter and find myself just sad.

I know that I want to be a compassionate person.  I know that I want to be loved and to give love.  I know that I want to know happiness and joy.  I know that I want to learn from the sorrow and grief.  I know that I want to work toward a better world for the Daughter.   I know that when I grow up, I want to show kindness, true kindness, to those I meet.  I know that when I grow up, I want to remember Friday and make it the event that keeps me cognoscente  of my loved ones and how important it is to tell them I love them.

I guess I do know what I want to be when I grow up, I just didn’t realize I knew.  It was never a profession.  It was to just grow up to be a good person.

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Wreck-it-Ralph Full of Sugary Sweet Kindness

Once upon a time, you were in school.  You can easily remember the groups of kids, the cool kids, the kids in sports, the kids who were sitting in the front row of every class that didn’t have alphabetical seating.  Chances are pretty good that you also played one or two video games, whether in an arcade or at someone’s house at some point in your childhood.  Combine those two main themes and you now have the basis for Wreck-it-Ralph, Disney’s latest animated feature.

Disney’s Wreck-it-Ralph

The video game, Fix-it-Felix Jr. has its virtual world rocked when their nemesis, Ralph (voiced by John C. Reilly) leaves the game to search for a medal of his own so that the residents of Niceland will love him just as much as they love their hero, Fix-it-Felix Jr. (Jack McBrayer)  In order to win the medal, Ralph must jump to another game where anyone can win a medal.

His first attempt to win a medal in the game Hero’s Duty under the command of Sgt. Calhoun (Jane Lynch), ends somewhat disastrously and causes him to flee the game.  Crash landing in Sugar Rush, Ralph makes an unlikely friend in Vanellope von  Schweetz (Sarah Silverman).  The little girl wants nothing more than to race in her game’s big race but, King Candy wants to stop her and will do anything to make sure she does not ruin the race.

Ralph and Vanellope team up and work together despite being considered outcasts, even by each other at first, to prove that judging people based on how they look is not the way to live life.

Disney, once again, hid a very valuable message for kids in this fun adventure through the video games of Mom and Dad’s childhood.  The Husband got quite a kick out of seeing all the old video game characters and references.  I got most of them but, I will admit there were quite a few that I missed.  All of those references went over the Daughter’s head but the main point of the movie did not.

People just want to be appreciated and sometimes it’s the smallest action or a simple thank you that will help that person realize they are not invisible.  It was a lesson in doing acts of kindness and appreciation despite whatever preconceived notions we may hold.  Get to know a person or just show them some kindness and that simple action can have a very lasting effect.

So during the next few months, when stress levels reach critical mass, take a minute and do something kind for someone.  They may be feeling invisible and you just might be able to make them feel a little better.

And go see Wreck-it-Ralph.  But, word to the wise, buy some candy, not popcorn.  Forgo the popcorn because after watching all the candy and sweets in Sugar Rush, you leave with the oddest craving for some Twizzlers, Mentos, chocolate in any form, Laffy Taffy, cookies, Little Debbie snacks of any variety, and hot chocolate.

 

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